Why I Pray For My Husband

Why I Pray For Him

One of the best things you can do for your husband, is pray for him.

In the bible, a husband is defined as a man in a legal marriage. When a man and a woman marry, they are bound together as one. (CEV) Genesis 2:24: “That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.”

Let’s first define what a husband is.

“House Band”

The term “husband” is derived from the Anglo-Saxon words which mean “house band.” These words imply a rope, or strip of metal, that is used to bind houses together. Husbands usually take the brunt of everyday life in a marriage. They “hold it down.” They make sure that the house is always in order.

This role comes with a lot of stresses including ensuring order, being a leader, and knowing how to make decisions that are in the best interests of the family. He also sets the standard for the household. The household follows the house band.

God intended for a husband to love his wife unconditionally. The husband “binds” his household with love. He “binds” his household spiritually, constantly making decisions that are best for the family spiritually.

The stresses of every day life can be physically, emotionally, and spiritually draining for our husbands. This is why it’s important to lift them up in daily prayer.

How I Pray For Him

When I first begin to pray each day, I first thank God for the many things He has blessed us with. I make sure that I give ample amount of thanks to God for blessing me with a loving, caring husband. I thank Him for the relationship He has allowed us to build with each other. I feel that giving thanks for the man God has sent you is very important.

I pray that God would strengthen my husband, especially when he is feeling the opposite. God is our strength, and I pray this over my husband because I know that the role of being a leader and the amount of responsibility that comes with it can leave him feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

I pray that God would equip him with what’s needed to fight spiritual warfare. Spiritual warfare is real. Attacks from the enemy are real. Our husbands need us to cover them in prayer them on a daily basis. Prayer needs to be proactive, and not just done when things start to go wrong. We should always be on the offensive.

I pray a protection prayer over him. I pray that God would protect him physically and spiritually. My favorite verses to pray for his protection are Psalm 59:1, Psalm 91, and Isaiah 41:10.

I pray for his peace. We can truly have joy only when we have God’s peace. My husband’s peace is not only important for himself, but for this household. For me personally, I can’t be happy if my husband is unhappy. If he’s not operating peacefully, I won’t operate peacefully. I pray every day that God would renew his strength and his peace. A verse I use to pray peace over him is Philippians 4:7 which says that God will give us a peace beyond our own understanding.

Lastly, I pray for unity, peace, and strength in our marriage. We aim to build a strong foundation in which we can build a family upon. We want our marriage to be unbreakable by outside forces. We a stronger together as one, and that’s what I frequently ask God to do in our marriage – to help us operate as one unit, especially as we begin to bring children into this world. We want to set an example for our future children.

Our home is a place of peace and refuge. My husband is a key factor in making sure we have a stable, loving, and peaceful household. We should always aim to keep our husband’s lifted up in prayer.

Being Married at 19

The biggest leap of faith I’ve ever taken was marrying the love of my life, Sam, at just 19 years old. We fell in love in just 1 short month. And get this: We got married exactly 7 months after meeting the first time.

I’m not going to pretend that this has been an easy journey, because it hasn’t. If anything, it’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And I’m sure he will tell you the same thing. Don’t get me wrong, he is the love of my life. I wouldn’t want to spend my life with anyone else. I thank God every day that He sent me him. But all good things come with challenges.

We started our marriage with little to no money. We had a small, 700 sqft apartment. All of our furniture was free or from the ReStore, all of our pots, pans, and utensils were from the Goodwill, and etc. We had a rough winter as we only had 1 working vehicle, and it had no heat. So, we froze everywhere we went.

Even though we had no money, we had a lot of real love for each other. A lot of people probably thought that we wouldn’t last, but 2.5 years later we are still going strong.

Sam had to work 8-14 hour shifts after having a long, hard day at NCCU, trying to finish up his degree. The only time we really saw each other was if I decided to spend a full day at NCCU with him and wait for him to finish his classes. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t see him from 9AM until 3AM later that night.

Because my business at the time wasn’t working out for us monetarily, I spent most of my day at home trying to work on different business ideas. I would sleep some during the day with hopes of being able to stay awake to greet my husband with a hot dinner when he came home each night. I would find myself cooking at 1AM most nights which was okay.

All in all, our start was rough. But it was so worth it.

One of the biggest challenges was continuing to get to know each other, each and every day. We learned something new about each other every day. Good, bad, and ugly, every single day. I reiterate “every day” because it’s true. New things were constantly revealed about the both of us, to one another.

The one thing that was a constant, common ground for us was the love we had for each other. Even though we had a rough start, we pushed through all of the trials and it has been very rewarding.

With God in the center, it was made sure that we would be able to stick it out. We made it through the brunt of our marriage, and now we really get to enjoy each other. We still have a lot to learn about each other, but that’s what makes this relationship fun.

I’m not in any way encouraging anyone to get married at 19, after knowing each other for 7 months, but I’m not saying “don’t do it” either. Even if you think you’re ready, like we did, you’re probably not. No one can ever really “prepare” for marriage. You kinda just dive in and pray for the best! Lol.

Marriage takes work. It takes patience, understanding, and sometimes, compromise until both parties are happy. But it is so rewarding. I wouldn’t trade this love for anything.